Finding yourself in a relationship with someone who is physically abusive is something that all of us hope never happens to us, yet some of us find ourselves in that exact situation. If that physical abuse is coupled with someone who also happens to have a drug problem the problem can be magnified and become volatile. An abusive relationship always takes a toll at the victims self esteem and self worth, and often they feel as though they could have done something differently to keep the abuse from happening.
The first thing to understand that abuse is never ok in any form, and there is nothing that a person does that makes the abuse their fault. The abuser has problems that have nothing to do with the victim, but the important thing is to understand that you can get help. If your partner or spouse never showed signs of abuse until they became a drug addict, then it is possible that the addiction is part of the cause for the abuse. That doesn’t justify the abuse, because nothing justifies abusing another person physically or mentally, but it could explain things.
Don’t hesitate to call the police. You have to do what you need to do to protect yourself, and if that means calling the police then by all means do so!
As difficult as it may be to walk away from your abuser, it’s important that you understand that in order to protect yourself, you should get out. Contact a friend or family member to see if you can stay with them temporarily until you can get back on your feet. If possible, try to take some money with you to help with expenses, but if it isn’t possible then it isn’t. It definitely isn’t a reason to continue to stay and go through the abuse.
If you are in an area where you find that you have no family, friends or other local support, check for a battered women’s shelter in your area. Most cities have them, and it will offer you a safe place to stay away from the harm of your abuser.
Before your abuser can ever learn to stop abusing you, he will have to find help with his recovery program that will actually get to the root of his problem, not just help him stop using drugs. Remember this isn’t your fault, and there is NEVER a valid excuse or reason to hit or abuse you.by getting into a