In order to help the alcoholic acknowledge their problem, you have to acknowledge it first. Become aware of the signs and symptoms of alcoholism as well as the tricks alcoholics use to get loved ones to help them. Then you must set limits. This is often difficult for people but it must be done. Let the alcoholic know the rules in your home. Let them know they cannot drink at your home and that, for instance, you will not bail them out if they get pulled over for a DUI. How to help an alcoholic.